Question from Adders (Q11-15)


Q: Is there such thing as an ambivert? Because I’m still confused whether I’m an I/E so right now I identify myself as an -NTP.

A: Yepp there are also ambiverts which basically can be both extroverts and introverts. When you took your test did the result show your E/I around 45-55%? If that’s the case then you can definitely fall to the ambiversion spectrum.



Q: As an INTJ woman, is it good to have an ENTJ man?

A: INTJ and ENTJ generally get along very well, and this type of MBTI match is one of the most ideal.

ENTJs and INTJs have the same judging functions as well as the same perceiving functions. If any relationship can be seen as a soul mate experience then it’s this one, or an identical ENTJ-ENTJ relationship. In the end it’s only logical that someone who is just like you will understand you best.

ENTJs are usually happy with any relationship that can offer them growth and intellectual stimulation and the INTJ has a lot to offer in that respect. These types are often interested in the same things, have similar life philosophies and similar thinking patterns. This can make for hours of interesting conversations and debates and a feeling of mutual understanding.

It takes both these types quite some time to open up and many people are written off by them as not worthy of emotional attachment, so when they finally find someone who understands them on a deeper level it can be really intense and passionate.

What each type gets from the relationship:

– lots of stimulating conversations and idea exploring
– learning new things and sharing knowledge
– ENTJs learn to be more patient and reflective
– INTJs learn to act more and think less (yes, too much thinking/analyzing can be bad)
– a reliable partner in life who you can trust
– a low maintenance relationship with no emotional neediness or unnecessary drama
– a peaceful, structured and organized life which is important to both these types


Q: Do you feel it’s possible for INFP to feel intense loneliness?

A: Well, what I found contradictory about INFPs are their need to have a lot of alone time but also to feel intense loneliness at other times, more so than other introverted types.

The problems could stem from:

1. Feeling strongly about your values and don’t ever want to compromise them to make your life easier

Translation: Other people compromise easily and therefore don’t understand your problems of trying to live a life that matches your values.

2. INFPs just can’t understand how people can ignore the suffering around the world.

Translation: Other people are callous or oblivious and can’t understand your problems because of how deeply you feel about the inequalities in the world.

3. Society is so materialistic and you can’t relate to that.

Translation: Being poor is more spiritually evolved and since you’re more spiritually evolved, other people can’t understand your problems.
Basically the intense loneliness that INFP might suffer probably stem from their mindset of “us vs them” in which they just can’t understand how people don’t feel so strongly about something as they do, which somehow creates the feelings of alienation for them which in turn could become intense loneliness at times.



Q: How to stop people from being baper bc of ENFP’s limitless kindness and caring?

A: That’s a hard question. It’ll need to be based on the other people’s personality type and how do they perceive this ENFP’s kindness.

The key not to be baper is to try to rationalise that feeling and take a step back to evaluate it objectively. Do this ENFP do this to all people or just me? What makes their treatment to me so special compared to the others?

But anyway, there’s nothing wrong with being baper hahaha



Q: Which personality fits INFJ because I can’t seem to find someone who fits me?

A: You need someone with the same F trait however with the opposite of Introversion type which is E, thus I think you will be doing well with ESFJ, he/she will be coping up with your Introverted side, starting conversations, open up with you, his sensing will also going well with your intuitive side. He/she also has feelings like you and principly strong with J type like you. Good luck 😉


Question from Adders (Q6-10)


Q: What do you think about female INTJ and male INFP relationship? 😄

A: it might be quite good however the F type should comprehend with the T since T is kind of person that might be seems too ‘heartless’ for the F type. since your boy is also a P i think the relationship will going well because he might be coping up with your personality 😊



Q: What type of man will suit an ENFP girl?

A: Well, the type of men that suit an ENFP would be those who are committed to personal growth and effective communication, both things that an ENFP girl would value the most.

There are so many types that can fit this criteria such but the best fit for ENFP girl would be INTJ or INFJ. With those types they can have intense, meaningful, and close relationship.



Q: As an xxxx, I’m still confused, how would I know whether I’m an extrovert or an introvert?

A: Contrary from widely-held beliefs, extroversion and introversion isn’t really shown from their stereotypes such as extroverts are those who are loud and the life of the party while introverts are the recluses who don’t talk and socialise much. It’s actually as simple as how do these people actually gain their energy.

If they feel energised when they meet and socialise with other people then it means that they’re extroverts, they need to be constantly interacting with people to gain their energy and would feel drained when left alone.

If they feel that they need some time alone after spending time interacting and socialising with people, then it means that they’re introverts. Many of them are actually enjoying people’s company as long as it is in moderate amount and with people who they’re close with, meeting and having to socialise with new people will drain their energy, while it’s the opposite for extroverts.

It’s not as simple to tell from the surface because there are cases of quiet extroverts and loud introverts who defy their stereotypes.



Q: Are all INFPs have troubles with falling in love? I only had crushes that didn’t develop into love so far.

A: Well, INFPs tend to be perfectionists and often strive to reach personal ideals that can be exhausting or even impossible to obtain. Maybe you couldn’t love these people because you didn’t see enough ideal qualities in them?

It’s actually quite strange for an INFP to not develop strong feelings such as love, but there are cases where it happens. Maybe it’s because for INFP before they can act on their feelings, their minds swirl with every possible outcome—every situation, positive, negative neutral—being with that person could create. Their vivid imagination, something they so often rely on in their creative endeavors, is of little help when it comes to love. It often runs amok with scenarios that might never happen.

So, maybe because you don’t let those crushes turn into love because you were afraid? Either way you still got plenty of time to reconsider romance in your life. Don’t be afraid to keep looking for the right someone. But being content with your condition now is always an option and there’s nothing wrong with that.



Q: Are all INTPs science geeks? Because well, I’m not.

A: Well, I’m definitely also not a science geek! Lol. It’s just that the common archetype for INTPs is Albert Einstein who is like.. the smartest scientist ever.

But what unites INTPs are their curiousity and their desire for new knowledge. It’s not always in the form of science but many INTPs would totally fit the scientific jobs because of the process of how their mind works.


Question from Adders (Q1-5)


Q: As an INFP, how can I be brave?
A: Ok so here’s the thing: INFPs are people with some of the strongest convictions of anyone that I know. It may not seem that way from the outside, bc they really do go with the flow a lot of the time. But then when it comes to things that really matters to them they can be very stubborn.

I think, because of this stubbornness, they don’t change until they are good and ready to. And actually that’s pretty true of everyone.

And it does seem that bravery, confidence, courage, self-assuredness are things that you grow into. So you should focus on your good capacity first. Try to make your stubbornness and the way you uphold your values as your strength, and I’m sure that you’ll be able to find your bravery within as long as you feel strong enough about the things that you care for.



Q: How can I be xxxx? Can I aspire to be another type?
A: Well, it’s unhealthy to aspire to be something that you’re not. Especially when the creators of MBTI test clearly stated that no types are good or bad since it only determine how someone process their thoughts and perceive the world around them.

What you can do instead of aspiring to become another type is to make sure that your type is a healthy type. What does it mean to be a healthy type? It means that you try to achieve your potentials and use your cognitive functions in an optimum way. You can read so many tips on doing this catered to each MBTI types.



Q: As an INTJ, what to do when you have impossible standards on your crush?
A: Well, what do you mean by impossible? I think it’s important for an INTJ not to overanalyse people (especially your crushes) and instead rely on the standard that you value the most as your priority, such as intellectuality (assuming that’s what you value the most).

Then, when you’re looking at your crush and finding a soulmate you’ll focus on how s/he could entertain your mind first and foremost, and starting to see other standards that you tried to impose upon them as something arbitrary. This made your standards became realistic instead of being something unachievable.

Just put in mind that you’re not actually lowering your standard, you’re just putting what you value the most as your priority, and other qualities can be negotiated as long as they can fulfill the most important thing on your list of impossible standards.



Q: What are the admin’s MBTI types?

A: Basically all introverts so far lol -> intp, istp, isfp, istj, and infp –> This was 8 months ago!



Q: What happens when ESTJ woman gets into a relationship with INTJ man? Or maybe you can give a relationship compatibility? That includes one that I asked 😼

A: as both of T types you might have a very good cooperation since the way you thinking is through logical so you dont have to worry about being overwhelmed by too may feelings. however the I and N types coming from him might make you see him as someone too serious and rigid since he is also a J type (like you). thats what i thought since i have an INTJ friend 😉